Posts tagged closeted
Posts tagged closeted
Lately I have been getting a lot of questions on formspring and some on here about coming out. I thought it be helpful if I wrote a post giving some advice on coming out.
Welcome to HU Queer Press and The State of the Gay! We are made up of a variety of queers with varying affiliations with Harding University. The State of the Gay is a self-published zine that aims to give voice to the experiences of gay and lesbian students at Harding. It is part storytelling, part religious and political critique, and partly a manifesto of hope for Harding’s future. The voices enclosed are the unedited and uncensored voices of individuals who are all too familiar with censorship. In truth, there is no single, identifiable goal of this zine other than to put our voices out there. Our aim is that through reading these pages you might become the ones to create the zine’s ending—to usher in its full political, social, and religious implications. We fully believe in the potential of communities to be free of oppression, hatred, and misunderstanding of queer individuals—will you help us create that reality at Harding and beyond?
Click here to share your journey anonymously or here to share it in a post. Feel free to share how coming out has affected your life and how much your life has changed since. Please reblog this to spread the word.
A good friend of mine came out across Facebook and posted a picture with his new boyfriend. All I’ve seen on both of their walls and profile pictures has been nothing but positive and inspiring messages of hope and congratulations.
Ad for the National Association of GLBT in Israel
“If you’re not with your son, you’re against him.”
“If you love your son, love him the way he is.”
“Just listen to him, and you might get to know who he really is.”
“The process of getting out of the closet should begin at home.”
This is a powerful picture.
Do you think he’s opening up the closet or barricading it in the picture?
A support painting; LGBTs are beautiful, amazing people and should be treated as such.
I’ve known my best friend since we were in diapers. His name is Nathan and he is the most amazing person I’ve ever known. We’re now both in college and he is in a steady relationship with and amazing guy. When Nathan was 13 he came out to his very strict, christian parents. They told him that they wouldn’t accept having an abomination living in their house. I remember opening my front door and seeing my best friend crying his eyes out, he told me he came out to them and they kicked him out. In the mist of our conversation my mother over heard, in this moment I realized how truly amazing my mother really was. Her exact words, “fuck them, you’re perfect. You can move in with us, you were always more my son than theirs anyway.”
He hasn’t spoken to his parents since, we see them from time to time, but they pretend like they don’t see him. I’m just glad that I’m lucky enough to have such a loving and open minded mother.
This is an amazing story <3 Thank you so much for sharing it with us here ^^ You and your friend are truly blessed to have each other and to have your mom accept him like his parents couldn’t.
In response to the post, "Christmas Coming Out!"…
Mernald Espinosa recently came out to his family & friends during the Christmas times through 5 steps and he does a really good job at capturing the details & the process of his coming out. His story is a cheery & jolly one, and a great source of inspiration; his blogging method is down to earth and he’s also a great person to talk to. He tries to make himself open for talking to everyone; as he says, “not talking about it is destructive.” Plus he’s just a really nice friend to have in your life. ;P
Personally, this guy means a lot to me. He’s a role-model for me; someone to look up to, but also a very great & close friend. I’m proud and glad he came out, and I’m sure his story will strike hope for so many others struggling with the issue as well.
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Teen comes out to anti-gay parents on hidden camera show, public reacts
ABC’s hidden camera show What Would You Do? staged a scene where a teen came out to his anti-gay parents. They captured bystanders’ reactions.
In the middle of a cafe, a son comes out to his dad who reacts by saying things like “my son is not gay!” and “this is a mistake—turn your life around.”
Some bystanders stepped in to defend the teen while others stayed out of it or even left. Some stated that they didn’t want to get involved. One man told them they should take the argument elsewhere.
After a few reactions are captured, they switch the dad out for anti-gay mom, who received similar reactions.
One woman interrupts the dad and voices her opinion:
“I understand completely because it wasn’t my dream to have two autistic children either, but you know what? I’m going to fight for them and I’m going to love them. I’m going to do what I have to do for them. You should do the same for your son, because what you’re doing to him involving everyone around here, is wrong.”
Coincidentally, one bystander was the parent of a student at Rutgers University, where a gay student committed suicide earlier this year.